Gender-Affirming Language 101
As a psychiatric nurse practitioner and trans guy, I've seen firsthand how the thoughtful use of language can profoundly impact a person's mental well-being. In the past few years, there's been a lot of buzz about gender-affirming language and how it can make a real difference for folks exploring their gender identity. So, let's have a chat about the basics of gender-affirming language, why it matters, and how it helps create a more inclusive and caring environment for gender diverse folks.
Understanding Gender Diversity:
Before we dive in, let's talk about gender diversity. For the longest time, society put people into little boxes labeled "male" and "female." While it’s common for most of us in the Western world to not question this way of categorizing people, this binary understanding of gender was in contrast to many indigenous traditions that recognized nonbinary genders for centuries. Gender is so much more than male and female! It's a whole spectrum with a bunch of different identities like transgender, non-binary, genderqueer, two-spirit, and genderfluid, just to name a few. These identities might not match up with what they were assigned at birth, and can be fluid over time. The way people identify this year can also be different to how they identify next year. If you work with trans & nonbinary folks in any official way, it’s good to check in from time to time about “How are you identifying lately in terms of gender?” You can miss things if you assume identity is static for people, whether they transition or not.
The Power of Gender-Affirming Language:
Gender-affirming language is all about using words and expressions that respect and validate a person's gender identity. It's about recognizing and honoring how someone identifies, including their pronouns, chosen name, and preferred terms. Believe me, using the right language can mean the world to someone. It shows that they're seen, heard, and accepted for who they truly are.
The Basics of Gender-Affirming Language:
Pronouns: Pronouns are like little tags that people use to express themselves. It's super important to ask and use the pronouns that someone prefers, whether it's he/him, she/her, they/them, ze/zir, or any other gender-neutral pronouns. Let's not make assumptions and make sure we get it right.
Chosen Name: Sometimes people might go by a name that feels more authentic to their gender identity. Using their chosen name is a simple yet powerful way to affirm who they are and show respect.
Gendered Language: We've all used phrases like "ladies and gentlemen" or "boys and girls," but it's time to switch things up. Instead, let's go for more inclusive alternatives like "everyone," "folks," or "friends." It's a small change that can make a big impact.
Educate Yourself: Now, I'm not saying you need to be an expert overnight, but it's good to learn about gender diversity. Get familiar with common terms and definitions, so you can better understand and communicate respectfully with folks of all gender identities.
Respectful Conversations: When it comes to gender identity, having open and non-judgmental conversations is key. Listen actively, show empathy, and respect. Create a safe space where folks can share their experiences and guide the conversation. Remember, we're here to support and care for one another.
The Positive Impact on Mental Health:
Using gender-affirming language can do wonders for someone's mental health and overall well-being. When folks feel respected and affirmed in their gender identity, it can ease gender dysphoria, reduce anxiety and depression, and boost self-esteem. It's about creating an environment where everyone can be their true selves without fear or judgment.
Conclusion:
So, in a world that's ever-evolving, it's up to us as mental health providers to embrace and promote gender-affirming language. By incorporating these basic principles into our daily lives, we contribute to a more inclusive and caring society. Let's keep educating ourselves, listening with empathy, and showing respect. Together, we can create a world where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.
If you’re interested in learning more about how to level up your practice’s policies, procedures, and ways of working with gender diverse folks, get in touch!
I’m currently accepting applications for Transcending Competency, a specialized training program for individuals, group practices, and organizations about how to implement specific policies and practices that will make your setting welcoming for trans, nonbinary, and otherwise gender diverse clients.
